Transgender Dating Coach

Meet a transgender girlfriend! I'm Amber Lynn, author of the free T-Girl Dating Guide -- download your copy instantly and learn how to romance transsexuals, shemales and t-girls of all types.T-Girl Dating Coach Amber Lynn Tells How to Meet Transgender Girlfriends

Do you want to know how to meet Transgender Girls? Do you find your efforts are often misunderstood by the T-Girls you contact? Perhaps you joined a transgender dating site but can’t get a reply. No need to worry. I have a unique understanding of what makes t-girls and their admirers tick. Often, it is just a matter of semantics or fine-tuning the approach that will make the difference with your transgender romantic efforts.

I’ve helped guys overcome their trans dating apprehension and shown them how to become successful in their romantic efforts. It isn’t difficult, but there are some things you absolutely must know. Otherwise, you risk outright rejection and you may not even realize why. All that is about to change!

Would you like to be the guy every T-Girl wants to be with? Do you want to meet a very special T-Girl and develop a long-term relationship? I’m here to help you succeed even if you have failed before. It comes down to supply and demand. There are many more admirers than t-girls, so you need to take just a few steps to make sure you stand above the other transgender admirers.

Many men with all the best intentions have been turned away just because they said the wrong thing. There are a few things you need to know before you jump headfirst into trying to find, attract and seduce T-Girls. Knowing these little tidbits may make the difference between success and failure!

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Transgender Girlfriends Chat & Social Network


Join thousands of transgender community members and friends. Browse profiles, look through photos and join the live chat. Transgender chat and social networking is a great way to explore your place in the transgender community. Come join us in a safe, welcoming environment and meet new friends! We have chat rooms designed specifically for the transgender community and trans support rooms so you can join us for a comfortable chat experience among people who understand you.


If you’re an admirer or want to engage in naughty chat we have you covered too. Just sign up and look in the chat rooms list for adult-themed rooms just for you! has created a chat room and social networking platform with something for everyone. We don’t have a lot of chat rules but we need a few to be sure the chat flows smoothly. Please read through the chat rules and make sure you follow them. Join the conversations and get to know everyone. There are some great transgender folks and community friends who will be happy to chat with you. Click here to sign in or join transgender chat – it’s always free!

Transgender Girlfriends Chat – You Must Agree To The Rules Stated Below

Transgender Chat Rules: The transgender chat room is frequently monitored by moderators who may or may not identify themselves as staff members. You must abide by their instructions at all times. We try not to be overbearing but some simple rules are needed to ensure a sense of safety and a free flow of live chat.

1. You must be at least 18 years of age per the site rules.
2. Name-calling, harassment, racism, bigotry, and general disrespect towards other chatters is not permitted.
3. Do not publicly or privately post any personally identifying information or private conversations.
4. Conversations involving politics and religion are allowed only in the Politics and Religion & Spirituality rooms, respectively.
5. Arguing with chat moderators is not permitted.
6. Please block members who cause problems or with whom you have personal issues.
7. Do not post Craigslist style ads in the lobbies. (eg. 24/looking for phone or cam fun. etc.) Use topic rooms for these kinds of chat requests.
8. Do not spam or flood the room.
9. Cybering in group/public chat is only allowed in the adult-themed rooms.

My trans photo galleries

I have uploaded so many photo sets that you can’t see them all in the drop-down menu. You can click the link to view links to all of my trans photo galleries.

Transgender dating. Men who aren't attracted to transgender women. Are they transphobic?

Are they transphobic?

From a Facebook discussion

No, of course not. They are just missing out.   We all have our own preferences when it comes to sexual attraction. That’s fine and it’s normal. You can still be a trans ally even if you’re not attracted to trans women. You may be asking, what brought this on?

Well, a right-wing publication recently ran a highly biased article asking whether those who are not attracted to transgender people [implying cisgender, hetro] are transphobic. They were making the claim that the trans community (they believe we are a huge conspiracy) would have you believe you are transphobic if you aren’t attracted to trans people. The reality is that life is never quite so simple. As humans, our attraction to certain genders and types is hardwired. We don’t seem to have much control over who we’re attracted to. Regardless of whether we are attracted to certain people or not, we don’t have to be a bigoted asshole about it. We do have control over that. 


There is no one size fits all approach to romancing T-Girls. Don’t worry, I’m going to give you all the insider secrets to make you irresistible to most of the T-Girls you will meet.

Download my free t-girl dating guide!My free T-Girl dating course is now available. I created this as a guide to meeting and romancing T-Girls. I’ll tell you where to meet T-Girls both online and offline, how to make your approach and opening lines, the correct terminology to use and how to sweep your special T-Girl off her feet.

The Dating Guide is now available in PDF for download or online reading as a PDF. Just click the image or link to view. It’s all absolutely free and I’ll share my personal thoughts, insights into the T-Girl world.

If you don’t mind, I’d love to hear your comments. You can post a message in the comments on this site or visit me on social media by following the links in the sidebar.

T-Girl Dating Guide: Comments from Readers

“Amber, just so you know ….. I’ve been sending fellas to your site for some time now. It’s kinda like, check this out BEFORE we go out. 🙂 … I am what I call myself a high self-esteem crossdresser. Once I got that part figured out my dates got better. But yes, your site is a wealth of info for them and us. Now I don’t tell them to f off as quick. lol, I send some of them your link and see if we can get on the same page together.” ~ Dana D (Facebook Friend)

“Hello Amber. Yes I did receive the guide and it was very helpful. It helped me understand the terms used a lot better. It seemed to be a lot of common sense as far as how to have a conversation with a special girl. I am not looking for a man nor do i want a man so it was really nice to know that the way i talk and treat a woman normally is what is expected. Thank you for taking the time to compile a guide like that for guys like me. I had been in the admirer stage for a long time and am now ready to pursue my first experience so it was very beneficial to me. Now is the hard part I am finding out, meeting the right girl for me. So thank you again and wish me luck. I look forward to reading your future emails.” ~ Ray

“I have downloaded the dating guide, and it’s great! I consider myself to be a smart and respectful guy, but you have enlightened me on so many things. Some of the thoughts and problems gals face I wouldn’t have ever thought about. I really appreciate someone with so much insight sharing it with everyone. You are really great for putting all this info out. Sorry if I sound like I am gushing, but you really are owed a ton of gratitude for all the work you put in. Also I cannot wait to see some new pictures!” ~ Danny H. (Facebook Friend)

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T-Girls are special! We generally adore our femininity and love the attention we get from male admirers. The problem is that so many guys don’t realize there are different types of t-girls and we all have our different personalities, needs and desires. Consider the fact that under the umbrella term “transgender,” there are those who identify as crossdressers, pre-op & post-op transsexuals, transvestites, shemales, drag queens, transgendered and intersexed. Like the general public, some are strictly heterosexual while others are bisexual or homosexual. The problem for gentlemen admirers (and I know you’re all gentlemen…. right?) is that they often don’t tailor their approach to fit the t-girl.

Interview with Caramel’s T-Girls

I was interviewed by my new friend Caramel from Caramel’s T-Girls. She asked some great questions. You can read the entire interview with Caramel at her website.

Meet More Local Trans Friends!

Take the time to spoil yourself. You deserve a break from the everyday grind just as much as anyone else. Find some new friends, chat with new people and maybe find a love interest.

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  1. I am a 50 year old STRAIGHT male……a Modern Age Neanderthal or MAN, and as such I am curious about a couple of things concerning transgenders,
    and the like. First off- Why? To be more specific, what causes a male to want to become a female? Second- At what point does the desire for a male wanting to become a female take place? And finally- What triggers this desire to undergo a gender re-assignment?
    Is it because the person in question is discontent with being a male?
    Is it because the person in question feels that sexual gratification can be
    more easily acheived by being part of the opposite sex?
    Or is it because the individual seeking gender re-assignment believes that
    God or nature made a mistake when he was born and that the mistake has to be corrected?
    Please feel free to write an e-mail to me, night or day, if you have an answer
    or the answers to my querries. I have been exploring this topic for the past couple weeks and I wish to aquire an understanding of the “Transgender Culture”, as I wish to call it and to gain insights of that part of our society
    so that I can write a report about it. Any help that you can offer will be very useful and greatly appreciated. Thank You.

  2. Where do I start . I never knew the world of shemale exhisted untill I got a laptop 3yrs ago . I have been a straight man all of my life . But still find shemales so sexy and attractive . I would love to meet with someone to discuss this . I dont want to go on the supposedly free pay ripoffs . But true and honest chat and greet and meet is very appealing . So what do you think I am nuts or not

  3. Thank You amber I am quite new at this and you have answered a lot of questions and things that I did not know and I look forward hearing from you or anything that you can post me thank you so very much I’ve never been with a tgirl and I am looking forward to it and I am quite excited about it

  4. Hi Amber I’ve never dated a transgender before I’ve only dated women but would like to see if this is for me

  5. Hi Amber Lyn:
    Thank you for the information regarding dating T- girls. I have copied and pasted it into a word programme so that I can resort to it again. It would be great if you would place a method to communicate thanks at the end of your information sheets. Many thanks.

    Robert Sallyman

  6. I like this site Amber Lynn and what your doing thanks your sister from a anther mister !! Tanya Reylynn GLad

  7. Thank you for taking the time to write this wonderful literature. I appreciate all the time and effort you put in to it

  8. hi amber! my name is lana im 17 and i think what you’re doing is a great service to all us tgirls, and tgirl lovers alike LOL 🙂 seeing these comments makes me feel like there is hope for a girl like me to find love, im lookin for a handsome sweet funny guy who likes my body like it is and wants that, but no one has shown up so far, i feel inadequate sometimes, all i really want is my prince charming, too bad he likes pussy ;P

  9. Hello Amber;
    Thank you for the guide it is going to be a very big help to me. I am into my third year of transition and love every day being the real person that I have become.

  10. am looking for serious relationship. am shemale looking for 40 to 50 year old men that can take good care of me love me for who i am….. u can contact me here s a r a _ c 1 1 2 @ y a h o o . c o m
    hope to hear from u

  11. thank you for your time,and this reaffirms my thoughts of treating a woman like a want to love her as a person not a possession. to love her like I want to be help her at all times because I care for her as a person. again I thank you ma’am.have a nice day…

  12. I’m 31yrs old. I am desperately seeking a beautiful pre-op t-girl. I don’t consider myself gay, but I do love the 3rd sex of a girl who happens to have a penis. That’s all I want!!! I would treat her like a princess and do anything to hold on to her. I have dated numerous regular women, but i want a nice sweet pretty girl with a little something extra to put my mouth on, put inside me, poking me while we cuddle in bed, and watch swing up and down while she is on top 🙂 That’s my dream. I want a pretty girl with nice boobs and penis (I wish i had amber lynn lol) but I want to date and marry a tgirl.

  13. I am a woman,and I will date women,men,pre-op transgender,she-males, male to female transgender,pre-op transsexual,female impersonators,and so on. I want to transition fully to a woman,and have a vagina,and be bi-sexxual.I love being a woman from age six years old. I am from Grenada,Ms. and don’t mind if you use my name photos,and anything else about me. Love being a woman,and satisfying my lovers.

  14. Hi…….I’m a girl in her 20s who’s sexually perplexed. At times, I find masculine boys to be attractive, and normally would fall in love with their overall appearance, other times, when I see beautiful girls, models all around me, I like them eve more, especially when they’re naked. What’s more critical, I haven’t had sex (ever), cuz I just realized that I haven’t really been in love with anyone (boys). And I’ve also realized that I might be either a Closet, Bi-curious or completely Bisexual, cuz I’m attracted to even Drag Queens! I’m obsessed.

    I love beautiful, effeminate guys, apart from the typical metrosexual ubermale, I find transgender people to be more versatile and creative! And HOT! and I’ve secretly questioned myself whether I’d like to break my virginity with a transgender or a gender-neutral partner. I wanna be in a normal relationship (monogamous) with a mate that I can share beauty stuff with, shopping, make up, go to the hair salon, spa and even travel all over the world. I have fantasized a lot during masturbation that I’m having sex with a shemale, normally in my dirty fantasy, she’d be over 5’10, long blonde hair, blue/grey eyes and pale skin tone. Artistic, sensitive, and gentle…. just like me.

    Day-dreaming: When we walk on the street, people wouldn’t even think she’s a man! It’s truly amazing, we’ll be like a pair of hot Lesbian couple who doesn’t give a damn about what other thinks.

    I’ve heard about social gay clubs where transgender beauties often partied or frequent their flirtatious demeanor, but 90{c2a18a058fd35b48a6357dcb14d07c9c635f1780f5551c74b3fec4bcae308da9} of them are Gays. I don’t know which clubs that I can find Bisexual Transgender who’s into both male or female, and one that I can romance with.

    I was in love with a redhead transgender goddess, (but she doesn’t know I exist). She had a BF who’s a real pain in the ass. He used to beat the hell out of my transgender crush and I know it hurts a lot. It was a year ago, and after that abusive SOAB left my crush, he/she went into rehab for drug / alcohol problems. Since then I moved on and went out dating straight guys but none had impacts on me like I have for my Transgender love!

    I’m obsessed with hermaphrodite beauties! I don’t know what’s wrong with me, help!!!

    I’m looking for my prince+ss charming, where art thou?

  15. Hearts that beat true love are the same , thoughts of tenderness feel different but the same . Beautiful painting in the broken picture frame , I see into your heart and know how to explain . Let me kiss you in the soft falling rain , hold you forever and always remain . X x

  16. Hey Amber, thanks so much for the guide on dating tgirls. Really learned
    some good pointers from it! Would be nice to find a pre-op m2f with c-cups or bigger to hang out with here in the Long Beach area. Maybe some of you tgirls reading this who are in my area would like to hook up with me through Amber. Giver it a try! Thanks again!

  17. hi i have not been abel to find a singel transexualanywhere around where i live in Fredericksburg Virginia can u help me i really would like to be in a relationship with a loving and fun tgirl i just cant find them and dont know how to let them know im here what can i do?

  18. Hi a 27 old man and I’ve been looking for shemale partner for a long time but i couldn’t get one. I really want a shemale who’d love to meet a nice caring man. So please help me find one.

  19. hi i would like to say this is a helpfull site i am a transgender female and been as a girl sice 5 years old allways new i was a girl i would love to realy get to know a honest older man in springfield mo thanks and hugs

  20. Hi. I’m a crossdresser. I’m not gay but I would realy like it if I could have sex with e real shemale. It looks awsome and I don’t want full on male to male.

  21. Amber I love your site, you are like an idol to me. You are the perfect role model for transitioning girls. You should have a course on how to be confident and sexy like you. I love you, I love you, I love you.

  22. Hi
    I`d to meet a T-Girl and sweep her off her feet..
    truly am kind and gentel with big heart
    am a 100{c2a18a058fd35b48a6357dcb14d07c9c635f1780f5551c74b3fec4bcae308da9}bottom wonder if you can help me to find a girl who accpets me
    am friendly & open mind easy to go with. i can fly to meet her.looking to see your message

  23. I admire your site. I wish you could link my site to your site. I have a link to your site on my sites. I have several. And I recommend it too. Amber Lynn, I love your looks….
    Stasha Petri

  24. dear amber first off hey i been following your site for a few monthes since i discovered you on youtube i dont date any tgirls but i try to use your advice to give to friends who do i use to run and moderate a user made chatroom for transexual support where tgirls would gather and discuss there transition in peace without oppression from naysayers but i digress i am a ts admirer and friend but i love your site what your doing i think you are very beautiful and have great intelligence and taste maam sincerly your friend in admiration james ps please email via my email link i few ideas and views id wish to discuss with you in private about trnsgenders views on certain issues on life and general if possible thanks have a blessed day always

  25. i need to talk to real female transexuals, preferably ones that want just intimate encounters in tennessee… sounds shallow, but thats all i can handle rigt now. ive been trying to talk to trannies all night and couldnt ever do it bc of the credit card…. thanks if you help, thanks if you dont… but i really hope you do.

  26. Hello Amber you are pretty. Well I am looking to find someone near me I live near Philly and looking for someone to become friends and hopefully something more. Someone I can spend life with.

  27. Hey my name is Matthew. I want to meet a shemale ur a tranny I always want to be with one. I wish I can find the one for me.

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